Do you ever say no to your children?
Considers easy to deny something to these
lovely creatures and faces
they ask with such angelic sweetness?
A well-known educator of our country
warns that it is not easy to say no to their
children,
especially when we have the resources to
serve them.
After all, we wonder, which represents
a stand over a new toy, if
have money to buy what
want? Why can not satisfy them?
If we leave the house for hidden
keep crying, why provoke
tears?
If you give him much pleasure to eat all
candy box, why make them think
in others?
And, moreover, is so easy and enjoyable
be nice ...
The problem is that being a parent is much
more than
just be good with children. Being a father is
have a function and social responsibility
before the children and to society in
which we live.
So when we decided to deny a
stand to one child, although we can buy,
or suffering for him to say no, because he
has another ten or twenty, we are teaching
him
queexiste a limit to have it. We are
indirectly, valuing being.
But when we serve all requests,
We are giving lessons in domination,
collaborating for the child to learn, with
our own example, what we want
she is in life: a person who does not accept
limits and not respecting each other as
individual.
We must agree that to have everything in
life,
as an adult, he will inevitably be
extremely competitive and probably
much flexibility with ethics, not to say
dishonest.
Otherwise, how to get everything? As
accept any defeat, no no, if
did you ever believe that this is possible and
even normal?
No one holds the idea that you create a
being
accommodated, without ambition and self-
defeating. From
way. It is the balance you need
exist: the realistic recognition that, in
life, sometimes you win, and at other times,
is lost.
To make an individual is a
fighter, a winner, he must
learn to fight for what you want, yes, but
with
suaspróprias weapons and resources, not
into believing that someone will give you
everything
ever, for granted.
Meeting the needs of children is a
obligation of parents, but we must distinguish
clearly what needs to be
consumerism just capricious.
Setting limits for children is needed
and healthy.
Never heard that children have
ill because they were denied a
new toy or something else.
But have you heard from small
offenders who have become aggressive
when they heard the first not, outside the
home.
Therefore, if you love your child, it is
worth thinking about the importance of
learning
difficult art of saying no.
It's worth thinking about the importance of
educating
and preparing children to face time
difficult, even if they never arrive.